I have mentioned before that I am definitely a person of routine, I do the same thing every morning, and it completely throws me when I can’t do my routine! Routine helps us to feel safe and secure, so when something prevents us from completing that routine we get bit a bit shook up as the safety gets taken away.
When we experience something everyday we tend to take advantage of it, and we don’t necessarily realise the importance it has in our life until it’s gone. This is the case with family. Family comes in all shapes and sizes, and what each of us considers to be ‘normal family life’ is only ‘normal’ for us. I just assumed that what we did as family, when I was growing up, was normal but I’ve since found out it wasn’t at all. The big one being watching BBC as opposed to ITV! Over our 17 years of being together, I have come to understand what was normal for the husbands family, which, on the whole, was very different from what was normal for me.
Yes there is the shock that comes when you discover that what was normal for you is different to other people, but you also don’t necessarily realise that your family are the ones who are a constant in your life, a support system when things are tough and a cheerleading team when things are good. It’s also the family that are there when things are a little bit meh. Richard Bach says
“The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life”
Family definitely doesn’t necessarily mean blood but means respect and joy in each other. My brother and I always used to fight when we were younger, and he still drives me crazy to do this day, BUT I also know that he is proud of me, supports me, and has my back if I need him.
When we think about respecting our family we may automatically think about the biblical command of honouring your father and mother but Psalm 127 would suggest it’s the other way round as well it says
“Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their opponents in court.”
Our family is a blessing from God, whether that’s parents, children, siblings, step families etc…. it is all a blessing from God, a constant part of our routine that brings safety and security, and that we should give thanks for every day.
Challenge: how are our family part of our routine, and what do we bring to that family routine?
Prayer: thank you Father God that you demonstrate the importance of relationships and family. Help us to be grateful for our family, and make it a positive part of our every day lives that we don’t take for granted. Amen