Month: July 2019

Respect everyone

As we come to the end of the term, and the end of the year we consider what it means to respect EVERYONE, not just some people, or specific people but EVERYONE. Our thought for the week comes from Clyde Kluckhan who says

“Every human is like all other humans, some humans, and no other humans”

Over the last term we have looked at respect in terms of groups of people, and areas of our life, but respect is something that should be in all aspects of life and something that we should show to all people.

In an act of collective worship recently one of our guest speakers said that he didn’t tolerate people. At first this shocked me, because that is what our society talks about – being tolerant. But once he explained, and the more I thought about it, the more I agreed with him. The idea of tolerance is allowing something to happen when you don’t like it. So if we’re tolerating people, then we are allowing them to exist when we don’t like them. We are putting up with people and things. That isn’t respect and that isn’t love.

This is not to say that we need to agree with everyone, or even like everyone, but liking is different to loving. Every single person is created by God and is loved by God, we should honour that by loving them as well. We are humans, we are going to disagree, but that doesn’t stop us from demonstrating love to all. Through love we will automatically be respecting, and if we can show love and respect then more people will want to follow that example.

Have a great summer

Respect your family

I have mentioned before that I am definitely a person of routine, I do the same thing every morning, and it completely throws me when I can’t do my routine! Routine helps us to feel safe and secure, so when something prevents us from completing that routine we get bit a bit shook up as the safety gets taken away.

When we experience something everyday we tend to take advantage of it, and we don’t necessarily realise the importance it has in our life until it’s gone. This is the case with family. Family comes in all shapes and sizes, and what each of us considers to be ‘normal family life’ is only ‘normal’ for us. I just assumed that what we did as family, when I was growing up, was normal but I’ve since found out it wasn’t at all. The big one being watching BBC as opposed to ITV! Over our 17 years of being together, I have come to understand what was normal for the husbands family, which, on the whole, was very different from what was normal for me.

Yes there is the shock that comes when you discover that what was normal for you is different to other people, but you also don’t necessarily realise that your family are the ones who are a constant in your life, a support system when things are tough and a cheerleading team when things are good. It’s also the family that are there when things are a little bit meh. Richard Bach says

“The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life”

Family definitely doesn’t necessarily mean blood but means respect and joy in each other. My brother and I always used to fight when we were younger, and he still drives me crazy to do this day, BUT I also know that he is proud of me, supports me, and has my back if I need him.

When we think about respecting our family we may automatically think about the biblical command of honouring your father and mother but Psalm 127 would suggest it’s the other way round as well it says

“Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their opponents in court.”

Our family is a blessing from God, whether that’s parents, children, siblings, step families etc…. it is all a blessing from God, a constant part of our routine that brings safety and security, and that we should give thanks for every day.

Challenge: how are our family part of our routine, and what do we bring to that family routine?

Prayer: thank you Father God that you demonstrate the importance of relationships and family. Help us to be grateful for our family, and make it a positive part of our every day lives that we don’t take for granted. Amen